Do Dogs Have a Right to Say NO?

Aren’t dogs supposed to do as they are told and follow so-called “commands?” They are just dogs after all. Interestingly enough, only about 20 years ago we took no for a no and children who approached dogs when they were sleeping or eating were in no uncertain terms reminded to ‘let sleeping dogs lie and leave the dog alone when he is eating’. We seemed to understand then that dogs were dogs and had a right to say no.

Yes, no, maybe? Photo Le Hammer
Yes, no, maybe?
Photo Le Hammer

These days it seems we all get really upset when the dog says no with a growl or a snap and label them ‘aggressive’. What are they supposed to do? Write a letter to the editor?

Regardless of our opinion, dogs do say no and they do so fairly often. It is a good idea to listen (or may be better watch as they don’t really speak English or German for that matter).

Dogs say no in different ways. Some are very subtle some are very clear.

If the dog is lying on his bed, you approach and he growls at you. Most will understand the warning and back off. Some might say, no way, I will not allow my dog to growl at me.

Please leave me alone! I am sleeping.
Please leave me alone! I am sleeping.

You are in a training session and the dog walks off and sniffs a blade of grass intently. Pretty clear: No, I do not like this training session. Again some will say, no way, I will not accept my dog walking off and reprimand the dog.

You are meeting children on your walk, they ask to pat your dog. Your dog turns the head away. Subtle: No, I really do not want to say hello. Some will not see it or not recognise it.

You are at an Agility competition and your dog runs out of the ring. Pretty clear the dog said: No, not with me.

You are at the dog park and say sit! Your dog looks blankly at you and does not sit. Obviously the answer is no.

There are different reasons why dogs say no. Here just some of them:

Lack or incomplete training: The dog just does not understand what you want in that specific situation. This often happens if the cue and associated behaviors have not been proofed against competing motivations or generalized to different environments/situations. A classic is the puppy who understands sit in his own home, but once she is in a different environment cannot follow the cue.

The dog is scared or nervous: If the dog is in a situation where she feels not comfortable, she might indicate that she wants to get out with subtle signs like head turns, lip licking or yawning. If we do not take note she might start moving away, and if that does not help, bark, growl, snap or bite.

Trigger stacking: It is just all too much. Imagine you are getting up in the morning, no milk in the fridge, you leave the house and the neighbor yells at you because your dog barked during the night and when your reverse your car out of the drive way, you get almost hit by a truck. The next person to say something will be yelled at, regardless of what she said. It is the same with dogs, they might have woken up during the night, the man with the dark hat scared them and then the dog next door barked at them. He just cannot take any more.

One that often gets ignored: The dog is just having an off day. Yes, like for all of us, some days are better than others. I think I am a pretty well balanced person, but I do have off days.

How are we dealing with these situations? This depends on how we, as the trainer or the owner, define the relationship with our dogs. Some might say: I do not care what my dog says he has to do whatever I tell him to. Some might take note and try to figure out why the dog said no and address the concerns the dog has.

The first approach was and is still common, the relationship is seen as a struggle for dominance and ‘who is boss’.

The second approach is based on a more cooperative view and a team work where the members of the team solve the problem in a joint effort. Obviously it can never be a completely ‘equal’ relationship because the dog depends on us for whatever they do and get. They also do not have the mental capacity or reasoning faculties of humans. However, there are tasks that dogs are much better equipped to perform than humans for example tracking or sniffer work.

Do not get me wrong, in the end the humans are responsible for their dogs and the dogs’ behaviour and in no way am I advocating a ‘laissez fair’ or permissive approach.

However, dogs being dogs, if they say no and we ignore it they will escalate the behaviour and there is a real chance of someone getting hurt.

If you ignore the growling of the dog who is asleep or eats and just proceed to do whatever you intended to, the dog might indeed bite you.

If the children proceed to pat your dog anyway, despite her saying no, she might try to move away, become really scared and next time growl or snap.

Meeting strangers - remedial socialisation.
Meeting strangers – remedial socialization.

If your dog keeps running out of the ring in Agility, you might never get the results you want because the ‘running off’ is more rewarding than being with you.

Or if your dog sniffs that blade of grass and you drag her back to training, she might shut down completely and set your training back by weeks or months.

Other approaches would be more socialisation with children, meaning every time your dog meets children she gets really tasty treats and she might change her attitude towards children.

If your dog does not like being disturbed, let sleeping dogs lie and if you need to move him, wake him up first and ask him with a nice treat to go to another place. In regards to growling around food, prevention goes a long way and teaching your puppy to accept people approaching the food bowl should be part of the puppy pre school curriculum with food bowl exercises and exchanging.

The dog calling it quits in a training session might tell you, that you are not enough fun and your rewards just not good enough. The dog who forgot how to sit might just need a bit more positive training.

I personally take it seriously when my dog says no and if it is a socialization issue will embark on remedial socialization immediately. This means I will take my dog out more often and will associate any potentially scary stimulus, like children coming up, with really great stuff happening to my dog. This can be BBQ chicken, a fun game, praise or pats, depending on the dog.

If it is a training issue I will make my training more fun and exciting. I will also increase the reinforcement rate.

Acknowledging the no and doing something about it will make you a better trainer and the two of you a better team. There is really nothing wrong with letting them say no and change the situation for the better.

About Barbara Hodel

In 2015 I completed my Diploma in Canine Behaviour Science and Technology at the Companion Animal Sciences Institute in Canada ( But I have been involved in dog training for the last 15 years and completed a Certificate IV in Companion Animal Services as a Delta-accredited instructor in 2007. I have been running Goodog Positive Dog Training on the Northern Beaches Sydney for the last 9 years, running classes on all levels as well as workshops and agility fun classes. We also do in home consultations. I compete in Agility with Shellbe my four year old German Shorthaired Pointer. She has her Excellent Jumping, Novice Agility, Gambler Novice, Snooker Novice, Strategic Pairs Novice Title. Zorbas a Kelpie/Ridgeback cross is retired now but enjoys it at almost 13 years of age. I had a life before dogs and hold a Master's Degree in Modern European History and Economics from the University of Bern (Switzerland) and a MBA (Master of Business Administration) from Southern Cross University Australia. I have in-depth experience in adult education and training, having taught high school and university students in Bern, college students in Sydney, as well as middle and top management employees of a large public corporation in Switzerland.


  1. Awesome insight. Thx! Owners should always know the aggression level and tolerance level of their dogs; and act on the side of caution. Interestingly enough, my rescue dogs often negotiate “no” or “WHAT?” which is my kinda no… I have no is no (I’m strict on no); but I have a “whaaaat???” Sometimes they will show me what they r doing or give a reassuring glace “duh don’t pee on that” or “duh don’t bite it” and often they just want to see it/do something/sniff it/maybe bite it… That little interaction often gives them time to show how restrained they are and I can reward them or quietly reprimand without a drama. Dogs are way smarter than I ever expect. Again, nice blog entry, Jenny

  2. As a dogtrainer i miss one huge important thing: dogs can say no because they experience pain. For example if they are asked to sit and they don’t, a dog can have pain and therefore don’t sit. Calming signals in dogs are so important to understand them. If you own a dog, look at the three little books from Turid Rugaas about calming signals. So much to learn!

  3. very well written and clearly explained! I own a jack russel who was not well socialized as a pup and probably has genetic issues. She’s my third dog and when she was 1 year old we went to a behaviouralist cause I di’dn’t know how to get her to be calm in certain situation. I learned a lot from this man, it is through his webpage that I found this blog. since then several sibblings of my dog have been to the same man with same behavioural issues as I have with mine. She will Always be a challenging dog but I love her and we have to accept that some things are just too much, she can not handle certain situations. I learned a lot about calming signals and still read a lot of articles about the subject. thanks a lot, I will share this with other dog owners!!

  4. Hoi Barbara
    so wohltuend und wichtig was du uns mitteilst!
    Dies ist eine der wichtigsten Erkenntnisse, die ich meinen Hundeschulkunden mitgebe.
    Sag DANKE zu deinem Vierbeiner, wenn er NEIN sagt, er weiss wieso!
    Es liegt an uns es ihm so zu vermitteln, dass er mit Freude JA sagen kann.
    Die Situation der Verweigerung zu analysieren hilft auch Schmerzproblematiken zu erkennen.
    Letzten Monat beschwerte sich ein Kunde, der Hund verweigere sich und sei dickköpfig…sein Trainer komme trotz massivem Insistieren nicht weiter, im Gegenteil, der Hund würde nun anfangen zu schnappen(!)
    Ich observierte die Situation und schickte ihn zur Abklärung zum Tierarzt.
    Der Hund verweigerte sich, weil er Schmerzen hatte!!
    Wie traurig, dass in der Trainerwelt zT. immer noch der Anspruch des absoluten Gehorsams herrscht.

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